11 Things I Wish Someone Told Me About Having 3 Under 2 - The First Three Months

July 11, 2016

Coffee IS Essential & Sleep Isn't an Option 

Where do I begin with this? I mean honestly, you will find out that you don't NEED as much sleep as you once thought you did to stay alive.

You will most likely drink several cups of coffee a day; morning, noon, and night, but rest assured this phase will end in 3-4 months and you will start feeling more rested. In the meantime refer back to the previous sentence or get someone to come to watch the kids while you take a little snooze.

Showers + Makeup are Almost Non-Existent 

That semi long five-minute shower you once used to enjoy, yeah it will no longer exist. (for the most part.) Unless you have someone there to watch the kids for a few minutes or dad is home. 

Otherwise, you can pretty much count taking a shower out of the equation and even if you do squeeze one in I can guarantee you will not get lucky enough to do your makeup or hair. Just make a point to shower and throw your hair in a bun once a day.

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Organization Is Key

Organization is so important. Seriously if things are organized it will make your life that much easier. I promise. If you are lucky and are reading this BEFORE your newest little one has arrived, go through and organize your entire life. 

Get a cleaning schedule in place and get used to it, get caught up on laundry and don't fall behind, planprep your meals before baby arrives (seriously I didn't and found myself wishing I did every night at dinner time.)  You will not have any energy left for cooking so prepare for this.

If you don't or can't do this; I highly suggest investing in a crockpot* if you don't yet have one. It will be your new best friend. (This is how I survived because I didn't prepare, and we still eat out of a crockpot a couple times a week.) 

Another alternative is to have family make some freezer meals and bring them over. Whatever you do prepare to not be cooking for at least 6 weeks if not longer. Life will be tough and you are going to be tired and cooking will be the last thing you want to do. 

Keep Your Expectations Low 

You will have all these expectations on how your house should look and when you should return to work, but don't shoot for the moon! Go with the flow, while still keeping some order if you can. 

Your house will probably turn into an absolute mess at times and sleep will be so much more important, so do that just sleep. You can catch up later on housework! Better yet see if there is a family member who can stop in and help.

Quick Tip:
Prioritize the most important things in your house that keep you sane. For us it's dishes and laundry we NEED to keep up with those two things or our entire lives just feel like chaos so those are the two things that I do every day no matter what, but even after little miss was born I will admit I struggled here, but I survived and my house is usually pretty decent.

The House WILL be a mess for awhile

Don't stress over the house or at least try not to. I know I said that organization is key, but there is a happy medium. Realistically you probably won't be able to keep up ALL the time. Accept this as your new normal. Having a cleaning schedule in place before the baby arrives really will help tremendously to keep the mess under control as long as someone, even dad, can stick to it. 

Things started to get better for us at about 4.5 months. It may seem like an eternity but it's really not and one day you will be able to keep up again. 

Baby Wearing

If you haven't yet, get a Moby wrap* for your new baby. Babies love to be worn and will usually sleep the whole time they are. 

It will take a few times of wearing your baby and putting it on to get used to how tight you need to tie it and how to maneuver with a baby on you, but you will get it and become a pro at baby wearing. 

I was able to do chores, change the twins, make meals, and get the important things done when I wore little miss. It was kinda like being pregnant again but I could set the baby down once I needed a break from wearing her. 

Accept Help

Accept help and even seek out help! You need something don't be scared to ask. If someone offers to help you take it. You can only do so much and with three children under two with one or two of them being a newborn, you will need all the help you can get.

We had Amber our amazing sitter come in at least once a week for the first few months just so I could shower, eat or sleep. She was awesome and I loved seeing her face walk through my door. It was like a weight was lifted from me every time she left. I would feel refreshed and like I could once again take on the world. 

You would be surprised how much help it will be for someone to come just once every week for four hours and take care of the kids while you take care of yourself. 

Constant Crying & High Noise Levels

Oh, the crying. Some days will feel like you haven't heard peace and quite in weeks. You will feel like the noise level has been ten fold and it is never quite from sun up to sun down.Then every few hours in between when you are up with the new baby(ies). The sooner you accept this as your new life and don't stress over it the better. 

Remember you are doing the best you can to take care of three little people who ALL need you for what seems like ALL the time. If that means that someone has to cry while you change someone else or fix a meal for their sibling it's okay. They will survive it! It will happen just work as quickly as you can and then move onto the next child who has a need. I always prioritized the needs and whoever had the highest need was who I tended to first.

 Laundry Sucks

You will be buried in the laundry so getting a laundry system in place before the new baby arrives will do wonders for you. 

There is nothing worse than running around digging through baskets of clothes to find an outfit for your toddler, while the baby screams and you needed to be out the door like 20 minutes ago. 

If you get a system in place do your best to stick to it you will thank yourself when this doesn't happen because I did and it sucks. Whatever you do try to keep up with this. Whether that means dad is in charge of laundry or your older kids try to keep up with a laundry system so you don't fall behind. 

Running Errands & Getting Out

There is no efficient way to go anywhere, so just don't do it unless absolutely necessary or get help. I mean maybe if we had a singleton and then twins it would be easier since I would only have one mobile toddler and two babies who would stay wherever I set them down at. I would assume you would still have the problem of how to get two infant seats + a toddler in on your own, though. 

But for real, I'm five months into this and if they don't have carts I don't go with all the babies. It simply waits until Josh is home. Like all grocery shopping for the week is done on Sunday's when I know Josh doesn't have to work.

The doctor's office is the worst. They have absolutely no place to contain so many little people and when there is one of you and three of them there is no efficient way to handle it. Either don't go unless you have to and bring a stroller, get help, or get someone to sit with all or a couple of the younger kids while you go. (The best solution if possible).

Accept that life is going to be challenging for now...

Once you come to terms that life is going to be rough and there is no easy way around it, for now, you will find peace. I can't explain the peace you will find once you stop thinking my life should be like so and so or why can they do such and such. Chances are they don't have as many babies as you do so, therefore, your troubles are going to be nothing like so and so's.

You are simply getting through each day however you can. You will be survival mode those first few months so just go with it. Don't put to much pressure on yourself. Do what you can and know that soon you will be in a routine and have this mom to three under two things down like a pro! 

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